bongghosts

bongghosts:

goodcharlotteofficial:

I use to want to write a whole zine about fatphobia in radical spaces but now I feel like I’d just want to write LOOK AT FAT PEOPLE TALK TO FAT PEOPLE DON’T IGNORE FAT PEOPLE PAY ATTENTION TO FAT PEOPLE LOVE FAT PEOPLE BE FRIENDS WITH FAT PEOPLE HAVE SEX WITH FAT PEOPLE DATE FAT PEOPLE FUCKING UNLEARN FATPHOBIA HOLY SHIT 

this is a great post, but having sex with fat people has literally nothing to do with unlearning fatphobia and we need to remember that.

someone being able of sexualizing me doesn’t equate to them confronting their own fatphobia and certainly doesn’t equate to them humanizing me or seeing me as a person.

and being capable of (or wanting to) fuck fat people can actually be a vehicle of fatphobia (re: objectification) and can DEFINITELY be a vehicle of rape culture / compulsory sexuality.

encouraging people to sexualize fat people without any context doesn’t help anyone. it certainly doesn’t help fat people. it most certainly doesn’t help asexual fat people, sex averse or sex repulsed fat people, sexually traumatized fat people, or just any fat person who doesn’t want to be sexualized without their consent.

fat activism built around gaining social capital through sex is not fat activism i want any part of.